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Break Up with
Your
Girlfriend:
What You Need
to Know to End
Your
Relationship
by Michael
Freeman,
M.A.
No
matter if
you're in
a
relationship
for 3
months
or
15
years,
sometimes you
realize: "I'm
not happy
here."
Maybe your
partnership
with your
girlfriend has
become
unhealthy, or
maybe you're
just no longer
compatible.
Relationships
should be a
place for
growth and
comfort for
both
partners.
If you're
certain
you no
longer want to
be in a
relationship,
you need
to leave.
You can't stay
simply for your
partner's
benefit. In
fact, she
deserves
someone who
wants to be
with her.
Staying is
unfair to her,
because it's
keeping her
from meeting
someone more
compatible.
You need to let
your girlfriend
know how you
feel, and then
take action to
move on.
Don't just let
your
relationship go
on and
on. But
breaking up is
easier said
than done,
especially if
you're dealing
with a clingy,
emotional
woman.
Yes, a break up
with your
girlfriend may
seem hard, but
you CAN do
it
.
Most of
us stay in
unhappy
relationships
far too
long.
Why?
1) You do
it for “her
sake”
You want
to prevent her
from being
hurt. You
can't stand to
make her cry,
and you know
she'll go
berserk if you
try to
leave. It
doesn't help
that she always
reminds you, "I
don't know what
I'd do without
you." Sometimes,
staying feels
like the right
thing to do,
but in
the wrong
run it's the
worse choice:
You're only
leading her on
and taking
up more
time.
Don't use, "I
can't stand to
hurt her" as an
excuse!
2) You’re so
invested
You have the
same
friends, her
parents love
you, and you've
put a lot
of time into
the
relationship.
Maybe you share
an apartment
and you have a
lot of mutual
possessions.
Still, if
you're unhappy
all the
time, you
still need to
break up with
your
girlfriend. Even
if
people
expect you
to stay
together, and
leaving her is
going to be a
huge hassel,
you're just
wasting time if
you're
unhappy!
5) You and her
are obsessed
with working on
the
relationship
Some
relationship
books say that
couples should
try to resolve
all
differences,
and should
never "give up"
on their
relationship.
That's
absolutely not
true.
It's fine to
work on your
relationship if
it's something
that is
valuable to
you.
However, if
your
relationship is
perpetually
unhappy or
unhealthy, and
you have major
issues of
incompatible,
you should not
get stuck in a
pattern of
trying to "fix"
it.
There is a ton
of relationship
advice out
there, and you
can spend a
lifetime trying
to apply
it.
However, you
first have to
determine that
the
relationship is
worth saving.
Don’t spend
your life
trying to save
a relationship
when your heart
knows it's not
what you
desire.
6) Fear of the
break
up
This one is
huge for
men. It's
especially true
if you're with
unstable or
needy
girlfriend.
You may fear
her reaction,
or you
may even
fear
that she'll
become violent
or try to hurt
herself. It's
no wonder
you're
stuck
It's easy for
men to get
psychologically
stuck in
relationships.
We don't
want to
hurt our
partner, and we
don't want to
go through the
psychological
pain of
breaking
up. So we
stay --
sometimes for a
lifetime --
because we fear
the actual
break
up.
If you feel
that you're
staying in a
relationship
simply because
you fear the
break up, get
my break up
guide
here
.
It's guaranteed
to get you over
the obstacles
of
fear and
anxiety,
and make
your break up
as painless as
possible.
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